I’m a millennial with four kids. This is how we’re coping.

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1. Bit of a rant here, singles also don’t have it as easy. Apart from the obvious legal limitations in Singapore with the HDB flat restrictions against singles, there are social/workplace glass ceilings as well. Singles often get ask to do unpaid OT and extra work simply because they have the “time and energy” for it, also they have a harder time asking for a raise or promotion because “you don’t have the commitment (family) to justify it”.

   Also it is harder for singles to get into social circles of people with families because of one reason or another, is it because singles are viewed inherently as “incomplete” or “weird” ? Hard to say, but that’s my personal observation at least.

   It’s extremely unfair against singles, especially if it is something that they have no control over like a relationship and family. But it happens.

   Also there is this unspoken pressure for people to have as many kids as possible, regardless of whether it is feasible or not, because of racial fears. This is more prevalent in Malaysia, where people bemoan the dwindling of certain minority groups.

   It appears to me that people are more concerned with a person as a RACE, instead of the person as an individual. And until people learn to value the latter instead of the former. I privately don’t feel anything seeing minority group populations fall, even when I am one of those said minorities.

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