My wife has a stable govt job that pays well while i chose to work in the private sector that pays ok… that’s not to say that i earn peanuts but it’s enough to tide the family through. Yet, the bulk of the family expenses fall on me… Plus i still have to give the wife something every month.
It feels as though that as “head of the house” i am expected to be the breadwinner, bring home the bacon and give up my salary for everyone and everything!
Everything came to a head when my wife and i had a frank and candid conversation about our contributions and also reminded each other about our covenants of “for richer or poorer”. After some discussion, we agreed to readjust our contributions and also better manage our family expenses.
Ideally, married couples should be providing for the family through 1 central pot and not from each of their own pots. There is NO your pot or mine pot. There is only a FAMILY pot.
The Social norms vary a lot around the world. In most countries in Asia it is hard for men with low income to attract a woman with a higher income. And a lot of surveys show that Asian women in particular are uninterested in hooking up with a man who earn less or have lower education than she has.
That is the main reason behind the low fertility rates.
Hey, just read your post and I gotta say, it’s super relatable! I really appreciate how you touched on the whole dynamic of earning more than your ex-husband. It’s honestly eye-opening to see how financial independence can reshape our views on relationships. The part where you mentioned how it took a toll on your self-esteem really hit home – so many of us in the sandwich generation feel the pressure to be the breadwinners while also caring for our families.
Your storytelling about breaking the mold and not letting societal expectations weigh you down is inspiring. It makes me think: in today’s world where financial success is often equated to personal worth, how do we balance having high aspirations while still nurturing our relationships?
I’m curious, what advice would you give to young professionals feeling the pinch to prove themselves financially, especially when it comes to dating or maintaining relationships? I ask this because I see so many of us juggling these expectations, and it’d be great to hear your perspective on managing that balance without getting overwhelmed!
I thought this was a finance blog and not a place for gender or political issues.
Everything is connected. Our lifestyle choices and financial goals are greatly influenced by our peers, family, and culture.
I can so relate to this article!
My wife has a stable govt job that pays well while i chose to work in the private sector that pays ok… that’s not to say that i earn peanuts but it’s enough to tide the family through. Yet, the bulk of the family expenses fall on me… Plus i still have to give the wife something every month.
It feels as though that as “head of the house” i am expected to be the breadwinner, bring home the bacon and give up my salary for everyone and everything!
Everything came to a head when my wife and i had a frank and candid conversation about our contributions and also reminded each other about our covenants of “for richer or poorer”. After some discussion, we agreed to readjust our contributions and also better manage our family expenses.
Ideally, married couples should be providing for the family through 1 central pot and not from each of their own pots. There is NO your pot or mine pot. There is only a FAMILY pot.
Depends on the couple also. No hard and fast rule when it comes to this.
The Social norms vary a lot around the world. In most countries in Asia it is hard for men with low income to attract a woman with a higher income. And a lot of surveys show that Asian women in particular are uninterested in hooking up with a man who earn less or have lower education than she has.
That is the main reason behind the low fertility rates.
Stay single. Your life will be easier!
Hey, just read your post and I gotta say, it’s super relatable! I really appreciate how you touched on the whole dynamic of earning more than your ex-husband. It’s honestly eye-opening to see how financial independence can reshape our views on relationships. The part where you mentioned how it took a toll on your self-esteem really hit home – so many of us in the sandwich generation feel the pressure to be the breadwinners while also caring for our families.
Your storytelling about breaking the mold and not letting societal expectations weigh you down is inspiring. It makes me think: in today’s world where financial success is often equated to personal worth, how do we balance having high aspirations while still nurturing our relationships?
I’m curious, what advice would you give to young professionals feeling the pinch to prove themselves financially, especially when it comes to dating or maintaining relationships? I ask this because I see so many of us juggling these expectations, and it’d be great to hear your perspective on managing that balance without getting overwhelmed!